Well I imagine you’ve heard by now that the singer Alexandra Stan was savagely beaten by her boyfriend a few days ago, landing her in the hospital.
The English-language reports decline to show the graphic photos and videos of the injured Alexandra, which are quite disturbing.
I happen to follow her on Twitter and saw the original message, posted in fucked-up English, that she had been involved in a car crash. It was only a day later that she came forward to all of the Romanian celebrity gossip shows/tabloids with the truth.
I’ve always had a soft spot for Alexandra, especially after she appeared in the same ProTV special on December 1, 2011 as I did. You can see the promo for the both of us here:
While reading through the thousands of comments on the Romanian sites, I was reminded of this country’s ridiculous laws on assault. The English-language news report that the police “generally do not intervene in domestic disputes and tend to investigate only if the victim files a complaint.” Actually it’s far worse than that. The police only “investigate” if the victim files a complaint in all cases of assault, not just ones involving domestic violence.
Even worse than that is that the stupid laws here don’t allow you to file a complaint that someone beat you until you get what’s called a “forensic medicine certificate”, wherein you have to get an official piece of paper saying that your injuries were caused by an assault.
That’s all fine and good if you’re a courageous young woman like Alexandra and you have the money and ability to go get that certificate. But as I know from personal experience, when a poor person or homeless person gets assaulted and can’t pay for this f*cking certificate then the police just shake their heads and do nothing.
This is yet another reason why there’s always a low-level but constant “warfare” amongst the street people here in Romania because quite frankly there’s next to no risk of being arrested or jailed if the victim of violence if a poor person.
Even more disgustingly, if a person assaults you and you have the money and courage to go get the certificate and the police begin an “investigation” (I say that word with a bitter laugh) the victim will later get the option of essentially “dropping the charges” in exchange for a payoff from their aggressor. This isn’t bribery or corruption I’m talking about but the fucking law. And it’s sad for me to say this but I’ve known a few people over the year who were beaten up by their boyfriends, initially wanted to press charges but then took the payoff months down the road when the injuries were all healed.
Sadly, domestic violence even in richer countries with more humane laws continues on. The celebrity British chef Nigella Lawson was recently assaulted in public by her husband and she’s apparently so intimidated and cowed by this bully that she’s not going to press charges. Double sigh.
About the only good news to come out of this is that it looks like cowardly bastard who beat Alexandra Stan, Marcel Prodan has not come home in days and is essentially in hiding from the media and the hostility of the general public. Good! The guy can get his day in court if it wasn’t he who did this but I’m damned glad to see the Romanian general public take her side in this and not just laugh it off.
After all, I’ve been around long enough to remember when the magazine Playboy (Romanian edition) had an article entitled How to Beat Your Wife Without Leaving Marks. Sickening. So bravo for Alexandra for stepping forward on this!